One of the most beautiful emotions in the world is getting a butterfly feeling when the person you’re crushing on likes you back.

And one of the worst feelings is that sinking sensation in the pit of your stomach when your crush doesn’t like you back.

But, alas, such is life. Feelings aren’t always mutual. Sometimes they are, and sometimes they aren’t. While the agony of not being liked back may be unpleasant at first, you may realize that these experiences strengthen and empower you.

If your crush doesn’t reciprocate your feelings, we’re here to help you retain your cool with these three simple measures.

1. Don’t put any pressure on yourself.

Let it go if the person you’re crushing on has communicated that they’re not as interested in you as you are in them. The worst thing you can do now is to give yourself false hope that something could yet happen. Accept the possibility that you two will only become friends, and remember that you deserve someone who loves you for who you are!

2. Take a step into their shoes

Respect your crush’s choice and be grateful that they didn’t lead you on, even if it’s difficult. Consider what you’d do if you were in their shoes.

3. Maintain your friendliness

Just because the person you like doesn’t like you doesn’t mean you have to cut them out of your life completely. There’s no reason why you shouldn’t attempt to keep your friendship going if you began off as friends.

4. Pay Attention to Other Relationships

Why fret over this connection when there are possibly a dozen others that will have a more beneficial impact on your life?! Spend time with the people who know and love you the most, such as your friends, family, and even pets. Spending time with them will quickly remind you of what a great catch you are, and your unhappiness will dissipate.

5. Concentrate on You

Guess what? It’s their loss, not yours, as corny as it may seem. Instead of allowing your melancholy to overcome you, focus on all of your wonderful traits and engage in things that make you feel pleased and strong. Go for a run, do some nail painting, or phone a buddy. Right now, you’re your priority, which is quite fantastic.